I like to clean up after myself and maintain a tidy house. But my wife doesn't seem to have the same habits. When she gets home, the first thing she does is throw her purse and a book bag on the kitchen table. It sits there all night until she takes it to work the next day and does it all over again. She leaves a mess in the kitchen after breakfast every morning which I end up cleaning up. Dishes and cups are left out all over and never put straight into the dishwasher. The sink ends up piling up and when she cooks, she leaves a mess.

MY life is such a mess and I don't know what to do!

It takes time honey. It won't just go away. I'm so sorry you're hurting. I can't do much but offer a cyber hug. But I'm right there with you, my heart has been ripped to pieces too and there's nothing I can do but hurt until it stops.

I live with my husband, my 18 month old daughter and my brother. Normally I keep the house pretty tidy and feel comfortable when I know that the house is clean, but for the last few years we have always had people staying with us and the house just gets so messy and disgusting that I almost can't even bare to be here anymore.

First we had my husband's sister in law come and live with us for, then she moved out and my husband's brother moved in. He then moved out and we had a neighbor live with us for a month

I wake up angry and go to sleep angry..my mom passed away in 2008 and she never told me the truth about a sister I have and never met..she lied to me my whole life(I'm 48yrs old) every little thing just sets me off. Someones voice or my kids will say something and I'll do the wrong thing, my husband just bugs the devil out of me and he is doing nothing wrong...I just cant stand anyone anymore..i just want to run away from my life forever. I feel like I could really hurt someone at any moment..