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In short: you mourn...
It's important to allow yourself to experience whatever comes up, without expectations or judgment. Typically you may go through waves of sadness, anger, numbness, or guilt...
There's no "right way" to feel, just allow whatever is happening to happen... remain aware, in other words, as much as possible. The process of healing is natural and takes time.
Mourning is not the problem here, it's the solution.
Well yes, basically. Mourning would only be a problem if you're hanging on to something too long -- i.e. trying to keep the past alive without too much rigidity. Lots of things in life involve going through painful or uncomfortable emotional processes that are normal and healthy. To avoid those processes makes life stop flowing
Grieving and its stresses pass more quickly, with good self-care habits. It helps to have a close family or friends. It also helps to eat a balanced diet, drink enough non-alcoholic drinks, get exercise and rest.
Most people are unprepared for grief, since so often, tragedy strikes suddenly, without warning. If good self-care habits are always practiced, it helps the person to deal with the pain and shock of loss.
Occupy yourself with other activities. Reminice about the good times you shared and remember the person as you would like them to be remembered. In time the pain lessens.
I dont think you ever really get over it but you learn to cope with the loss.
Always remember grief is your friend, grief helps you remember and helps you heal.
? One can never really get over the death of a loved one. However, they can truely live on within your memory.
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? I lost my soulmate, Scott, 17 months ago. Everyone is right you never get over it. It becomes part of who you are and I believe has changed me forever.
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In other words with out God I couldn't have made it. When I feel totally lost I try to picture the reunion we will have someday. I also have tried to change the way I look at the world and that all of those things that once seemed so important mean nothing. It is Love and kindness that matter.
I agree with justme's answer you never really get completely over it but hopefully as more time passes the grief and pain lessens and you move on with your life. Grief counseling also works wonders if you are having a hard time getting over their loss especially if it has been awhile since they passed and you feel like you are never gonna get over it.
I lost the love and light of my life 2 1/2 years ago to rape/murder and have struggled
with the pain and grief for all this time. I think what makes it harder for me is I blame myself for her death because I was too selfish to go out in the rain without an umbrella and get myself wet to meet her at the train and walk her home the night it happened.
I keep telling myself over and over that it's my fault if I only had not been so selfish she would be alive and with me right now I have been going through grief counseling for a couple of months now and it has been a big help. I am learning to move on and get past this. I highly recommend it to anyone having trouble getting over the loss of a loved one
